My Opinion: The Gay Sheriff
So, I was asked why I haven’t posted anything about this gay sheriff thing, so I thought I’d post my two cents. In case some of you aren’t familiar with the case it basically goes something like this. There was a closeted sheriff in Arizona who was working for the Romney campaign as well as being a republican congressional candidate when he was outed as being gay. Not only was he gay, but he’s been having a relationship with an illegal immigrant. He then drops out of the Romney campaign but says he’s still running his own campaign, and in addition to that it’s been back and forth about if his illegal boyfriend is actually legal or not. If that wasn’t enough drama for you, apparently he threatened to deport this now ex boyfriend/illegal immigrant.
Now for my two cents. I might sound a bit harsh for saying this but he made his bed, now deal with it. First, I’m suppose to feel sorry for someone merely for the fact that he’s gay. Sorry, just because you’re gay and I’m gay doesn’t mean we are in some sort of brotherhood where I have to stick up for you or come to your rescue.
Second, the guy is clearly an idiot. Why you ask? Well, he made a decision as a gay man (closeted or not) to align himself with the Republican party…a party that hates the very person he is. Not only that, he then signs up and works for Mitt Romney a person who is also against gays and everything we are fighting for. If that wasn’t enough, he’s running his own campaign to further those antiquated beliefs, including those beliefs that gay people are dangerous and we don’t deserve to have equal rights.
So what about his illegal boyfriend? I think he crossed the line and abused his power. He is in law enforcement and shouldn’t have relationships with criminals or illegal/maybe legal/ immigrants. In my opinion that’s like a teacher dating a student, or a doctor dating a patient. There are lines and boundaries that just shouldn’t be crossed. Sure, they may be hot in a porn flick, but let’s face it there are some professional standards that he crossed. He used his position as a sheriff and threaten the “guy he loved” with deportation.
Lastly, he dropped out of the Romney campaign but is still running his own congressional race. Here is my question. If you’re all the sudden not qualified to work for Romney, what makes you qualified to run your own race? Did he quit just because he’s gay? Was he forced out? Bottom line, either your qualified or you’re not.
Frankly, I think this guy has a lot of soul searching to do. He was in the closet and is now the center of attention and that clearly takes a toll on someone. I don’t think he’s had a chance to process everything, let alone come to terms with the fact that he’s gay and now everyone knows it. I think he’s got to own up to who he really is and take responsibility for his actions. He’s got his future to think about both personally, professionally and politically and right now they don’t line up at all.
Do I support him? Absolutely not. As, I mentioned earlier, just because he’s gay doesn’t mean that the gay community or anyone else for that matter should rally behind this guy. I’ll admit that there was a part of me that felt sorry for the guy but that was very brief. The more we learn about this guy, his character, his motives and just the ugliness of who he is, it because very easy to not support him and not feel sorry for him. Atleast it does for me. I think he’s an idiot.
Anyway, that’s my two cents, I look forward to hearing from you guys on this one. Tell me if I’m wrong, you know I love to talk about stuff like this.
I think you hit the nail on the head with that one. Thanks for the article because I wasn’t aware of this. These are the types that hate themselves and then take it out on everyone else. This kind of thing seems to happen a lot in the republican party, gee I wonder why…
@alterego1980 Yeah, I can’t get past that whole connection there. Ugh sickening.
I love this stuff 2, The problem I see is we don’t have all the facts. We are making a lot of assumptions. I do feel sorry for him, I know how hard it’s to deal with being Gay. All the stigma and bigotry he’s dealt with all his life. Him being from Texas he may not be as liberated and Gay Suave as most City folks. We forget the Hate and ridicule we have to endure while growing up to finally learn to accept ourselves.
t’s hard enough living a secret life in the closet and then dealing with the guilt and shame gays are stigmatized to. So, I do feel sorry for him that he can’t process his demons. It took me a long time to feel Okay being Gay, I dined it most my life, I fought it, I cried like a baby to god to change me and make me “Normal” many times and some times those memories still haunt me.
Until we are completely accepted as the norm, most LGBT’s will have shame and guilt for being who they are. So, it’s a shame we are treated as the outcast and we can’t feel comfortable in our own skin these things will happen.
Gay Drama is the best, we are so Dramatic and we love to blame society for not accepting us. I feel it’s a defense mechanism. He definitely needs our support and a good psychiatrist. Just as a Child being bullied for not fitting in we can’t turn against him when he needs us the most.
On top of being outed when he definitely wasn’t ready, now we are going to chastise and turn our backs on him, when he needs us the most. Compassion, understanding. kindness and unconditional love is what he needs right now from all of us. Not The same Hate his feared for being in the closet. When your down, right or wrong we shouldn’t kick him we should Accept that know one’s perfect and we make stupid mistakes and choices. We learn from our mistakes and we should show that we care and support our fellow confused, fucked up gays as well as our Cool Gays. We are Family!
@DanyQT You make some good points, and I too cried almost every night begging God to change me for years. I know it takes each of us our own time with acceptance and learning to love ourselves and to be ok with who we are. That said, that doesn’t make me want to line up with a group that hates my guts, that hates the very core of who I am. Who advocates (in some cases) for our death. No, no no…that one doesn’t fly. I grew up in a small town in the Bible belt…I know how the pressures can be and I didn’t fully come out till my late 20′s but you damn sure didn’t see me signing up with hate groups like the GOP and then signing up to advocate those same principles in my own election.
I don’t think he signed up, and there are Gay Republicans….. I know a few, and I keep banging my head asking them WHY? and they keep saying Small Government… I keep saying your idiots… But, There are Gays That are bigoted just as some straights are not… It’s what makes the world go round and round… He may have infiltrated Romney’s Camp to eventually make a difference, we don’t know what evil lurks in men’s minds… But, we still don’t have all the facts, so, I wouldn’t crucify him yet… Remember Innocent until proven guilty.. crap…LOL.. Some people are just confused… and that’s why I just stay out and try not to judge, I to in my past have been insensitive and thrown a few Rocks at Glass houses..
@DanyQT I think all of us have been there too. I know I’ve made mistakes in the past and changed my opinion and beliefs too but that still doesn’t make up for the fact that he abused his position as a sheriff, threatened a person that he loved with that same position, etc etc. If we isolate each thing alone we can make excuses and probably justify what he did, but we also must look at the bigger picture. When you do that, you see the totality of who this person is. Granted, we don’t know all the facts, but what we do know is enough to form some opinions. We’ve also seen how he’s reacted to the situation, the statements and the interviews all are very telling.
I thank God for people like you who are so easily to forgive and offer second chances, perhaps that is how all of us should be. While, I may be forgiving my own life lessons have taught me a lot about people and so forgiveness doesn’t come so freely.
Once again I have to commend you for your opinion. Your deductive reasoning and yiour conclusions were flawless. I too do not feel sorry for this asshole and feel anything he gets is too good for him.
@turnerreuben Well thank you, I appreciate it. Hopefully, anything he gets now is going to prove to be a life lesson for him. Then again…he obviously hasn’t learn up to this point, so it probably won’t.
Amen Sister , AMEN ! I CANNOT Feel sorry for this Guy , AT ALL ! This Guy calls himself a Republican and Alligns himself with everything they stand for , HATING ALL GAYS being at the top of that List , DESPITE the fact that he himself is a member of that very Community he helps to spread Hate about ! He then runs a Campaign for a Pollitical office based on tightening control over Illegal Immigration from Mexico , all the while conducting a Secret Love Affair with a Young Man from Mexico with questionable Legal Standing ! When the Affair goes sour , he tries to force the young man to keep quiet about their relationship by threatening to use his power as a Sherriff to have the young man Deported ! In my book , his actions speak Loudly ! All of us go through our Trials and Tribulations concerning facing our Gayness and what it will entail , that is normal and understandable , but to use that Self – Hatred to Hurt others to further a career is unforgiveable ! He has no choice about being Gay , but he DOES have a choice to Treat others in the same boat as him with Respect and Dignity ! That is Simple Human DECENCY !
@WilliamMeemken absolutely!! Preach it honey, preach it!!!
@Sozo
I’m Sorry , but Gay Guys like this REALLY PISS ME OFF ! If you cannot stand yourself , Fine , make a change , but DO NOT take it out on the rest of us who DO have Respect for who we are and make ALL GAY PEOPLE look bad in the Process !
@WilliamMeemken apparently while the two of them were dating there was an alleged threesome with a democrat in this area that a day or two later voted to give his Sheriff’s Department 5 million dollars…which was later reduced to just over 1.4million. So he’s a total douche…sleepin with whoever to get what he wants. Bastard!
@Sozo
Really ? Damn , what a Despicable Fucker ! And the really sad thing is , its people like him that Republicans will point to when they continue to try and strip our rights away ! We all get a Black Eye because of Asshats like him !!
@WilliamMeemken yeah the more I find out about this guy…the worse he becomes. People like that make me sick., then they put the label of gay on him and it makes the rest of us look bad.